If it seems like I am directly talking to each and every one of you, it's because I am.
It is so easy for people, especially the college students like myself, to loosen our grip on our expectations and settle for someone who is just. not. right. To settle because of fear of being alone or to believe you can change someone to fit your mold, is not only unhealthy, but unnecessary.
This is a struggle that many of my friends and I are currently facing. Our hearts go out for the kind of people that we believe we can fix. We believe that our efforts will turn 'boys' into 'men'. Sadly, this is something they must do on their own.
So here it is y,all, this is what you deserve.
You deserve someone who will not hold you back. It is so important that your person not only strives to be a better person, but does everything in their power to make sure that you do so as well. ( I mean this is how power couples are formed. Do I need to bring up Meredith and Derek??)
You deserve someone who treats you right ( someone who will respect you and be faithful). To settle for someone who disrespects you in the slightest, is setting your heart up for destruction. I am not saying that he has to open the car door for you every time, but small gestures sure do go a long way and say something big. Respect is so gosh darn important y'all. (P.s. this goes both ways)
In the wise words of poet, r.h.sin, "The love you deserve can't be found while holding on to someone who doesn't deserve you."
You deserve someone who will see your flaws as beauty. Who understands that your flaws are part of you and that every part of you is worth loving. Although they should embrace your flaws, find someone who makes you feel like you have none.
Settle for the person who compliments more than your physical attributes. Your mind and heart should be far more important to your significant other than anything else! The things that will still be with you when you are 70 should be admired by him when you are still in your 20s.
Although I used the word "settle" a few times within this post, you need to find someone who will make you feel like you are not settling. When you find someone who helps you continue to grow and learn more about yourself, stay with them for as long as you can.
You can memorize this whole list and find even more like it... but the truth is, you will never figure out what you deserve until you can learn that you are worthy of all of these things ( and more). You must love yourself before you can truly find the right kind of love for yourself.
Sincerly,
Sidney
